When it comes to the divine lush green garden of the heart chakra, love is ultimately the key. While it is very necessary to love others and be open to receiving love, the most important first step to take is a commitment to developing a deep love of self.

We hear about self-love everywhere these days, but what does it actually mean? How can we love ourselves more? How do we know if we are loving ourselves enough? When do we know if we are full and are ready to give others the overflow?  It can seem overwhelming, a little hazy, and we can easily end up in a state where we are berating ourselves for not doing enough to fill our cup.

First, listen.  What is your heart whispering to you? What emotional messages are you receiving each day? Is there a pattern? Is there one that keeps popping up on repeat? It takes courage to listen to them because they are truth and truth can be very scary.  It takes courage to really listen. When we begin to listen, we begin to choose ourselves. We put ourselves first.

What past hurts are being triggered subconsciously by friends/lovers/family/situations in your environment?  Can you find the root of these hurts?  Listen. Be your own private investigator with a mission to do what is best for you and your wellbeing. Can you find forgiveness? Can you forgive yourself? Forgiveness is essential for healing and it is also an act of deeply caring for yourself.

Our heart space whispers ‘listen to me, make time for me’.

What nourishes you?  What brings you joy?  What are five activities that you can implement in your week to give yourself this love.  This is about YOU.

My five:  writing, painting, reading, kundalini yoga, dancing.

I could think of plenty more.  If you are struggling to come up with a list, that is ok however sweet beam of light I feel it is time to make time for you.  If we cannot make time and show up for ourselves, how can we expect anyone else to fully show up for us? We must make it our mission to fill our life with activities and pleasures that nourish us, make us smile, give us soul shivers.

I know when my cup is full as I am no longer craving anything outside of myself to satisfy or fill me.  Any pleasures or activities with others are simply delicious icing on the cake because I have already given it to myself first.  When we do this filling up ourselves we don’t expect others to do it for us, we don’t demand it from an outside source. I sometimes get to a point where I am craving something outside of me to fill me up, and that is when I know I need to find time for myself to nurture, nourish, refill, reboot.

No more seeking approval, or attention, or love, or company, or happiness from anyone else as we’ve got it covered.  That’s not to say we just become loners!  Noooo.  This actually makes all of our friendships and intimate relationships that much stronger and more satisfying.  They are no longer being built from a place of lack and starvation, but alternatively given a platform to thrive in the overflow that comes from a place of juiciness,  abundance, strength, and harmony. We have already developed a beautiful healthy internal root system of our own and are sharing the overflow with other gorgeous souls that we choose to connect with.

Take time for you. Nourish yourself. Fill yourself. Each time you do this, you are becoming brighter and brighter, like a stunning crystal lantern.  Your heart chakra spinning harmonious green light with sparks of pink.  Your vibration rising and rising each time you pay attention to your hearts whispers, becoming the best version of yourself. Attracting all that is meant to be for you when the time is right. Be that beam of light in your life first and foremost for YOU. By doing this, you will light the way for others to do the same.

'You must do the thing you think you cannot do' - Eleanor Roosevelt

Affirmation:  'I embrace my courageous heart'